Ive been in a serious relationship for five years (the type where weve always talked about growing old together/marriage/kids/all of that stuff). He does seem to genuinely like me just not sure how much. We both have had infidelity issues in the past but we have worked on them and moved on. I wonder how your wife feels about your cheating on her, and telling her about it. And he even try to contact his ex. I hate to be negative, but most likely your husband has done more than you have evidence for. He says that he loves nothing more than me and they meant NOTHING to him then the pure satisfaction of nailing other woman like a macho man does. His affair was just a way of building his confidence up and dealing with a fact hes married to incredibly successful woman. Whether youre forgiving, dont want to split up the family or you love him too much, sometimes youll want to take your husband back and work on your marriage. I had a brief infidelity and lied to save face. Im not married but I have a daughter and another baby on the way. He and all the other family got really drunk and told jokes and professed their love for each other-then back at our hotel he rolled over (very very drunk) and said to me 3 timesIm sorry and I cant live with myself. It hurts me, but he doesnt believe in it. It sounds like it was very difficult to live through that marriage and shocking that he wasnt the man you thought he was. I am extremly heart broken and lost. We'd all like to think we. If you feel like hed cheat on you, then he probably will. Like when we have financial issues he sits me down and always reassures me that we will make it through it. Hello, just letting you know that I have never done this before. Recently he started working with a buddy of his to where he is gone all day from morning till night and recently I found two txt nessages to sum girl daying Im home, the wifey is here then a minute lster another one to her saying sorry baby he tried to tell me he didnt mean it like that then he got mad for me accusing him and before I found those messages he was always accusing me of cheating even though I always have my kids with me. They had been texting, talking on Facebook and God only knows what at work. buy a gps on ebay .. $40 and the monthly subscription to track it is only $10 .. and/or put a sound activated recorder in his vehicle .. you are married so youre allowed. To be honest I cheat and always will. I want to leave because I feel so angry of what he has done to me. It doesnt mean were stupidit just means that were human. Definitions of different types of love, for couples and singles. HiI am pretty sure my husband of 11 yrs has or is cheating online. No one should feel stuck in a relationship where both love and trust are on the line. Please. Im now 5 months pregnant with our third child and sometimes I ask myself why do I put up with this shit. Fing my dream job calling for 8months gone, sure wed see each other, talk every day and night. I bet he wont mind (proving that he doesnt care if you find out about thoes msgs) and after you delete about 10, youd realize why he didnt delete them all, its just too frustrating. YOUR WELL BEING DOES NOT DEPEND ON HIM NOR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER!! so i confronted him about it and he suddenly get angry. This is not out of the ordinary, but this time he didnt call, & he always call b4 going 2 bed or in general, but this time No call! The counselor suggested he write her a letter telling her she was a big mistake, that he woukd not protect her ever, and that she was never to contact him again. he said she didnt want to go home and he was worried that she and her boyfriend were going to have problems if he didnt take her home and she kept refusing to go home so he said that he dropped her off at another bar. I pray you work through the negative emotions, and find yourself in a peaceful place on the other side of all that pain. I finally had enough after he got her to call my father in law to basically say I was crazy and they werent doing anything. We have been married for 15 years. He has never kept anything from me before no matter what it was so I just let it go. So I have been suspecting my husband for a while of cheating on me (maybe more emotionally than physically). I understand now I was bigger and better person than he was all along. He has really changed for the worst. when we go out i am normaly the one who holds his hand or tries to be cute with him, i notice when we are out he looks at other woman and then when i ask him about it he says i did not. He went to work for an independant guy and didnt come home for 4 months. They communicate through walkie talkie Bluetooth app or they video chat. What is holding you back from walking out of your marriage? I think about him a lot, more than I should. You have to learn how to deal with the situation and find out FOR SURE if he is cheating or not. Women who think their husbands would never cheat are destroyed when they find out their husbands are lying about cheating. He asked me out a week or 2 later, and we hang out almost every day, and he picks me up. He began coming over to comfort me letting me cry which I thought was out of a sincere care due to all the enormous grief I was suffering thru which I foolishly thought was outta kindness!!! All because i wanted to keep a spark in our marriage. Ive smacked him on his head but that hasnt helped yet. Thats completely a smack in your face. I confronted him and he called me a bi**h and later appolgized for it. And good men get cheated all around and you fail to see them when you meet them so maybe you should stop blaming nature and men and start figuring out whats wrong with you. We are having major problems and are going to separate in the next month or sohave to wait until the lease is up. She said she wouldnt just because she wasnt looking for that, she wanted a relationship and she didnt want one with him because she didnt want to go down that road again. They are always my work colleagues and are always independently minded, intelligent and highly educated women with a penchant for fashion, as is my wife, and two of them (who also knew each other) after admitting the affair to her became my wifes friends too, along with their husbands. We have a 8 month old daughter and Im a stay at home mom. Only 8% of men cheat because they want more physical intimacy. It was a women but he said it was his friend who is male. He says he has no idea how they got there. He always start agruments even in small things which always turn out to be a big issues between us. He then took it from 2d to 3d visiting many strip clubs and admitting to paying for more than 20 naked lap dances. His excuses was he was not happy. And just before he gets friends with girl number on, hes unfriends this second girl. When hes with me, hes distant. To them the truth is a hallucination of a monster waiting to turn them into a rubble of shame. I thought to myself this is it, this proves to me that I am his one and only, the only woman he wants. Sorry if my ealier statement about husbands lying and cheat seemed perhaps aggresive. Confused between an affair of the heart and physical cheating in a relationship? I have read some texts he does not tell women that he is married. We are Gods blessings to those in our lives that we love. Ive been with my husband for 23 years and in the last few years 2 women have contacted him on facebook saying hes the father of their kids. WE were only just us the first year we started dating. I said theres no excuse why ur texting her, if she wont leave u alone why are you texting her? Is this ok? im currently doing a research for my new website on the subject and this was a great article! His ego is having a party he has two women who want him! Please help. It brought back so much pain that I was trying to recover from. She brought him baked goods, if one was working and one was not they called each other even while on vacation. Id talk to a counselor and divorce lawyer as soon as possible, just to start thinking about what lies ahead if you decide to leave. I am married. He then told me he and a much younger friend met a couple of girls at a bar and my husband was just being the wingman for his friend. He has all the signs of lying to, leaning away from me when I ask him about it, telling me that didnt happen, getting mad at me when I try talking about it, or just not saying anything when I talk about it. I know this because I caught him making out with a woman in his car outside a bar 2 years ago. It is not ok he is treating you like this! Of course, he always says that hes with his male friend who is 37 years old. My last therapist said to me toward the end of one of the last sessions Tom, you already have all the answers.you just need to look within. He cannot give of himself. Had she not placed that call I never would Have questioned him about this woman. The more you learn about other wives experiences and how their husbands lied about cheating the more insight you might have into your own marriage. There is an instinct within us that drives us to procreate with different partners because that results in successful dispersion of our genes. Lord knows there will be a man who wants someone who will always be there by his side! We met young, but I believed we were in love. 1. I have gotten picked at by women I dont no are they would just ask up to him and ask question like where you been and he explains to them. i totally lost it then. When i confronted him, He accepted and told me it was the daughter of a male colleague at work, when i investigated, it was another lie. Prepare for His Reaction. Im in constant pain. If he has performance anxiety in the bedroom, he may be more likely to be unfaithful in marriage. My depression is getting worse though and Im afraid that I cant keep up with his sexual desires and sometimes I really do think that I deserve all this for cheating on him that one time. I feel I am going crazyAny advise. He tried to blame me , that I wasnt loving enough, wasnt complimentary enough . AND I LET THEM..this is crucial. I am in some desperate need of advice before I start ripping my hair out of my head. He makes me feel unappreciated disrespected and worth nothing to him. Thank you for being here, and for sharing what youre going through with your husband. He would threaten me with leaving every time my eyes got watery or when I was trying to find some answers. Over the years even after we got married back in 2013, our relationship has become more and more difficult. He used to complain I clean too much as well. i just need some help figuring this out please HELP!!! We texted frequently enough. He was force to tell his wife and the polices his affairs, his one nightstands and what he did to meAfter all this, do I regret telling his wifeNO. Me and my husband been together 15 years, Recently I discovered my husband is using his smart phone sending heart shape , love , and kiss emoji to someone ! Don't berate. Not thinking or caring about my medical condition or how it affects my son. 1. Wishing you the best. Any advice? I was trying to convey this to my H tonight when he tried making me wrong for having trust issues. When I moved in to his house i really had no idea that his ex girlfriend live there too. I learned about the affair Christmas morning. That means act as if, fake it til you make it. I then started checking his phone and his FB messages which talk about he they slept together and him having to pay for her morning after pill. The ugliness must stop and you need help to stop it. does he show to you openly when he go to the other woman? I just hate you why wont you just disappear . . he thinks i cheat but i cant cause i just go to store take care of the house and he callls me 2 times whe i go food shoping i can have freinds cause he dont like anyone i ever talk to. How can I believe it was only one time? Thanks G. My bf of 5 years cheated with an ex from middle school in oct. And when I talked to him about it and asked him if he still wanted to be me and work things out he said yes but I found out for about 2 months he was still talking to her and he is still lying about what happened. I confronted her and him with the email and they claimed it was a big joke. They even said he must be beating me for a reason. Let's pretend that your marriage is just your marriage and that . I let it go on. I guess when he stops providing Ill probably lose interest in staying with him. Perhaps you could get some new clothes, a new hairstyle or even join the gym whatever you do, though, do it because you felt like it and not because of your relationship status. Your marriage is sacred, and when your husband chooses to violate it, it leaves you feeling all kinds of emotions. You dont need to find evidence to make it 100% certifiable. And for those who do get into physical or emotional relationships with married men, you have no pity, no excuse. Ill be honest, I did a lot of searching. It bothered me because up until this incident, I thought he only had eyes for me. Im a recovering addict myself, and have been through a marriage where my wife was cheating. ? Most women, I think, would feel that way, too. That has been going on for a year. It sounds like youre confused and conflicted about your relationship. It doesnt appear that hes been calling and hes told me that because of our fighting he thought he may be possibly falling for her, but couldnt get a hard on with her because he has a consicence and that he realized how much he loves me. You dont have to get him to you to counseling I think its far more important for you to get as emotionally healthy as possible on your own. I was upset that he didnt care enough to check on me and suspect he was up to no good, but let it go when he assured me he was busy. If I were you, I would follow my gut instincts. He cheated many times on his previous women while in relationships. Jeeze am I making things to easy for him? I asked again the next day and he said there is no one. It wasnt sexual according to her or my husband, but he lied to me on several occassions taking her and her daughter out for dinner and to Disney on Ice. Could that have been another lie added to it? This means that your husbands friends have a very real, direct effect on your marriage. Put simply, if he has been cheating, this tool is likely to make it immediately obvious. He always wanted to please her, he always offered to help her with her class-works (even to his own hurt). I am 100% and completely amazed by the fact that you posted this!!?? He came back and I thought everything was fine. He's used lying as a way to keep you and others from knowing who he really is. Hi everyone, been with my husband (now) for 2 years before he proposed to me, we got a place and got married 5 months ago. ANYONE PLZ.!!!!!!!!!!!! He lives to be complimented. Some times we mowan see it hard to decide of what we want in life, sorry to say that. He is gas lighting you . I cant tell you whether you need to stay or go. I cant predict the future but I know that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. And yes, it turns out, all the other things were stress at work, including being out at a very tense meeting that ran late. I have become very suspisious of him always calling him checking smss. When I ask him to fix it he gets mad. Found out husband had 2nd affair with same girl He begged for me to stay This was 4 years ago told and he still has not come clean He has been really sweet lately Told him I can not get past it if he cannot be open & honest Recently and in past he told he does not care how I feel Where do I go from here if not out the door Recently he, My husband cheated threw my trust right out the door It has been 4 years i told them both they could have each other. Been there, had husband of 13yrs cheat on me. I dont know how you find out if your husband is cheating on you, and lying about. Hello, I have been married for 11 years now. Neuman also said that lying is worse than the actual cheating. Hello, I dont know what to do I have been married 10yrs and it has not always been easy. I confronted him. Wives know their husbands; if he changes how he normally talks or behaves, then he might be cheating or lying. Remember that its not your fault yes, your mom is in pain because her husband cheated on her. What ever he liked that whore. Never do this! So the kids hear us fight they are well aware of what is going on. And..he is responsible for his actions. I know my gut instinct is right. He always consulted her before making any decisions just as she always consulted him before making her decisions. When the weekend comes around he spends it with me and my son. It sounds like your marriage has been filled with emotional upheavals, suspicions, disruptions, and lack of communication. I think, quite possibly just friends. He has done meth, weed and huffing . Other than thst I didnt witness any other interaction between them. Hi, i have a feeling about my husband and twin sister, i have had dreams where the both tell me that something has gone on but i afraid to know the truth. i dont know how to handle this anymore im broken. It just this whole picture I had about him, is not real. I see the way he looks at me (which is awesome), and I know I take his breath away. I went through his phone bill and found 2 numbers that he texted so often it was not funny. Hes not very affectionate and he can go months without having sex with me. Even if I was your marriage counselor, counselors dont give advicethey help people find the answer that is already inside them. Just found the messages in his phone. From June of last year to March of 2011, he lived and worked in a different city. I loved going out with her, dancing and having fun. So weve been trying to reconcile for almost 1.5years I forgave him for the cheating he said hed not do it again. 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