Huge mistake on my part by doing that. 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He does not have the right to show up unannounced and call you a liar and make accusations. Retroactive jealousy is affecting our relationship, what should we do? Who dumped who in my situation is a bit hard. It probably isn't a good idea if she was the one who broke it off. at 7am today I started getting txts on my phone and it was him asking if he could walk me to work. Why didn't he want to be exclusive at that time? I've learned from a lot of my mistakes that I made in the past. At first he seemed very calm and when I asked him how he was feeling he started to get agitated and then broke down again. I feel as though I have been misunderstood. I dont know how to fix this honestly. As of now we live on an emotional connection between the two weeks later the same school and doesn't make me reconsider our relationship, with out him. This has never happened to me, but I think you nailed it on when you said this 'She said that she never knew what it was like to be alone and she's learning that now. ' Are you interested in getting back with him after the way he's treated you and even said that he hates you? Please I need advice. Why do you want him back? Started Monday at 08:56 AM, By Write it down and date it. 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Who came up with this agreement? You are looking : showing up at ex house unannounced. Id be calling whoever I knew he was with if it were me. I ended up texting her this morning and here was the interaction: Me: Honestly, I have no idea why you came or what to believe but after all of that last night, I just can't leave it like that. He is still clearly in love with you but very confused and hurt. So at around 8 pm she showed up and invited herself into our house. This is an act of stalking. Sorry to go on about it so much. This is meant to keep you off balance. However, being the idiot that I am, I let her in and walked into the living room. I wish I was at your stage, been one month from my bu, and still feel like crap. I feel bad for her really. I remember toward the beginning of our relationship my now ex bf told me, with tears in his eyes: "if you ever left me I'd wait day and noght outside your door for you to open". Obviously she felt guilty, and wanted you to hear her out. I know you both said you wouldn't sleep with anyone even though you weren't exclusive (Really weird agreement in my opinion) Where you two sleeping together at this time? ._9ZuQyDXhFth1qKJF4KNm8{padding:12px 12px 40px}._2iNJX36LR2tMHx_unzEkVM,._1JmnMJclrTwTPpAip5U_Hm{font-size:16px;font-weight:500;line-height:20px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyText);margin-bottom:40px;padding-top:4px;text-align:left;margin-right:28px}._2iNJX36LR2tMHx_unzEkVM{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._2iNJX36LR2tMHx_unzEkVM ._24r4TaTKqNLBGA3VgswFrN{margin-left:6px}._306gA2lxjCHX44ssikUp3O{margin-bottom:32px}._1Omf6afKRpv3RKNCWjIyJ4{font-size:18px;font-weight:500;line-height:22px;border-bottom:2px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-line);color:var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyText);margin-bottom:8px;padding-bottom:8px}._2Ss7VGMX-UPKt9NhFRtgTz{margin-bottom:24px}._3vWu4F9B4X4Yc-Gm86-FMP{border-bottom:1px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-line);margin-bottom:8px;padding-bottom:2px}._3vWu4F9B4X4Yc-Gm86-FMP:last-of-type{border-bottom-width:0}._2qAEe8HGjtHsuKsHqNCa9u{font-size:14px;font-weight:500;line-height:18px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyText);padding-bottom:8px;padding-top:8px}.c5RWd-O3CYE-XSLdTyjtI{padding:8px 0}._3whORKuQps-WQpSceAyHuF{font-size:12px;font-weight:400;line-height:16px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon);margin-bottom:8px}._1Qk-ka6_CJz1fU3OUfeznu{margin-bottom:8px}._3ds8Wk2l32hr3hLddQshhG{font-weight:500}._1h0r6vtgOzgWtu-GNBO6Yb,._3ds8Wk2l32hr3hLddQshhG{font-size:12px;line-height:16px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._1h0r6vtgOzgWtu-GNBO6Yb{font-weight:400}.horIoLCod23xkzt7MmTpC{font-size:12px;font-weight:400;line-height:16px;color:#ea0027}._33Iw1wpNZ-uhC05tWsB9xi{margin-top:24px}._2M7LQbQxH40ingJ9h9RslL{font-size:12px;font-weight:400;line-height:16px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon);margin-bottom:8px} Yeah I agree with you here. I (m/28) popped up last night at my exs house unannounced to collect a phone I got for her because her old phone was completely fucked under the Press J to jump to the feed. a woman is struggling with her boyfriends parents unannounced visits. Let him come to you and don't ever try to defend yourself because that makes you look guilty. Admittedly I don't understand the dynamic between them and brown, you can attest to my inexperience here just by looking at my other threads, but after that long does the power struggle even matter any more? Turned out she got angry because she assumed that I had some motive in mind. Im sorry. He usually sleeps in til like 2pm. Submitted: 3 years ago. She started crying some more, saying that she knows that no one will ever treat her better than I did. We haven't communicated there in months So hm. Unless I really, really wanted him back, I wouldn't want him coming over. She didn't come straight out and say 'I want you back', which I thought she was going to do. I was told that he kept telling her that he didn't want to be with her and she wasn't taking the hint and continued to hang out with him. In reality she knew what she had except for some of my flaws and didnt know what to do. jessb86a (Also not the first time shes done this type of thing), Side note** she often uses being a mom as an excuse for her poor behavior because moms just worry so shes just being a mom . Don't do it! That happened more than once. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. Im constantly trying not to get my hopes up but I still do Its also a constant battle to stay NC especially after today. And I think it was really brave of her to come to your place, to come to talk to you face to face. Some people have been saying I should never have told him but I felt he needed to know the truth. Very worried. She's clearly a mess right now and I don't want to get drug back into this. Been there done that. I think we both have issues to deal with. I'm sorry I bothered you. She used this guy as a rebound so she wouldn't have to face the issues and pain of the break up. Tjeesh. Press TikTok: @xomissjaay, Sheryl Jacques A woman said she took her five-year-old child to the home of a YouTuber unannounced. Four months in and now she decides to pull this stunt? Hard to say for certain, but four months isn't very long. ._2a172ppKObqWfRHr8eWBKV{-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0;margin-right:8px}._39-woRduNuowN7G4JTW4I8{margin-top:12px}._136QdRzXkGKNtSQ-h1fUru{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;margin:8px 0;width:100%}.r51dfG6q3N-4exmkjHQg_{font-size:10px;font-weight:700;letter-spacing:.5px;line-height:12px;text-transform:uppercase;-ms-flex-pack:justify;justify-content:space-between;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center}.r51dfG6q3N-4exmkjHQg_,._2BnLYNBALzjH6p_ollJ-RF{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._2BnLYNBALzjH6p_ollJ-RF{margin-left:auto}._1-25VxiIsZFVU88qFh-T8p{padding:0}._2nxyf8XcTi2UZsUInEAcPs._2nxyf8XcTi2UZsUInEAcPs{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-widgetColors-sidebarWidgetTextColor)} It's freezing outside. beerockJanuary 28, 2009 in Getting Back Together. I say be very, very careful. He showed up to my house unannounced the next day to repeat what we had already discussed. Remember its his day for pick up. Don't do it. The ultimate revelation of his feelings for you is the time he put in. I know she cheated. My ex is doing kindof the same thing, he dumped me while he was already living with his current gf. Good way to put it. What a raw hand to be dealt though. If you have questions about the community, or concerns about posters, please reach out to the mod team. Let it slide, because if it happened once it certainly bound to happen again at once point and you guys are not going to be the same peeps as you were prevously. We were still together but then she got different towards me and I figured somehting was up. At this point, my shield that I put up when she came through the door was slowly starting to fade. You are looking : showing up at ex house unannounced. Something happened with them and now she has to face the music of what's going on. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. ._1sDtEhccxFpHDn2RUhxmSq{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-flow:row nowrap;flex-flow:row nowrap}._1d4NeAxWOiy0JPz7aXRI64{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}.icon._3tMM22A0evCEmrIk-8z4zO{margin:-2px 8px 0 0} I would also suggest installing a camera or multiple cameras. Did she come in and make coffee, and demand you to go get her the creamer she likes? 8 ) /cheers and stay strong by your belives. Sometimes its fine like we had a Christmas Eve outing all together without any drama. Maybe this was her first step in getting herself back together. You are not alone. It doesnt seem to make sense. I've talked to friends and they've just told me to stay away or else I'll just get hurt all over again. OK, often "sorry" is just short for "Ha ha, I screwed you over and there's nothing you can do about it. Just wanted you to know." Sometimes it's ge As the title is an important trait to have a good minute after. We rely on the community to alert us to comments and posts not made in good faith. She assumed it because I didnt talk to her for 3 days and then lied about part of why i didnt talk to her. The Coolest Part About Jealousy That You NEVER Realized, TikTok mom Jac Woodwell (@jacquelinewoodwell) shared the moving story of meeting her now-fianc on Tinder after the father of her child dumped her while she was pregnant. No doubt! Things progressed quickly and we both This is a tough call dude. What else is new, huh? Nothing ever seems cut and dry in this department. She obviously has some issues to work out on h I can parent and am not accountable to you. I'm guessing she would have either a) not even gave you the time of day - or - b) been cold and then kicked you to the curb. Big House With Lots And Lots Of Room . toughlove1993 It was discussed and both decided to have her just stay put. Not that much, but a little just because it was out of left field. ._3bX7W3J0lU78fp7cayvNxx{max-width:208px;text-align:center} I have not spoken to my husbands ex in over 2 years. So good for the child right!? I know you love him, but before you even consider going back with him, you better make sure he's gotten over this. jessb86a A lot of subtle tests too, saying like 'Well you don't have to see me anymore'. I told her. He says I must have slept with them all. Started Friday at 07:51 AM, By After how he reacted today he will probably pull away from you for a while until he has healed. I wouldnt do much focus on the dont do this message when dealing with HC, and instead just say she can always reach out to you if she cant reach him, and how it would spare her of the worry, inconvenience of driving out of her way and having to show up unannounced. I tried explaining that I had friends that are guys and that they were JUST friends but he wouldnt buy that either. That is dads job. Basically in a nutshell, my ex and I are still in college. Yes the trust is broken, I just hate this feeling. She feels guilty (mentioned hurting you; you aren't over it). The house w, Parsons Ks Haunted House . But I do love her anymore and just deal with this. I closed the door and walked away from it. Answered in 9 minutes by: But theres always another incident that she feels no wrong doing from really need advice on how to word a boundary about our place and showing up unannounced. Izzy1234 So I was just minding my own damn business last night and this happened Last night, I was sitting on my couch around 10pm, watching TV. Ill do what you say and leave him alone and hopefully he will come to me at somepoint. So frustrating. She denies everything. & for anyone that takes this comment seriouslywhy??? I don't mean going over their house a day or week after the breakup. I dont know why he came this morning. I imagine she is hurting and needs you to give her a "fix" first instinct is run! She said that she could tell I wasn't over it yet and she said that she wasn't either. Read More >, This has never happened in our family before. But I dont think thats really the avenue to pursue here. About recognizing mistakes you made and addressing them with the new girls you're meeting. That is dads job. Her and I basically go back and forth for the next hour or so. A former candidate for the state legislature was arrested Monday for allegedly orchestrating the shootings at the homes of local Democratic officials. She made references to it a few different times and I told her that it wasn't her business. DEAR AMY: Two years ago, I was casually seeing a man, Brian, for about a months time. Ice queen Please note we are a support sub for stepparents' issues. What else is new, huh? We dated for 2.5 years, broke up four months, etc. I know, I told him to pick up after we've spent seven years which spanned from college and have always been very quiet. ( I read about her barging in and taking her daughter out of bed) this woman is unstable. After all, we were together for 4 years. She has a lot of baggage with Daddy issues, home issues, etc. Ask Your Own Parenting Question. Truth About Cell Phones In A Relationship, We broke up because he has depression but he has already reached out, She dumped me and found someone new, 10 months later its gotten very complicated. Regardless, I would recommed ever showing up to an exes house uninvited. Why else would she show up at your place at 10pm unannounced? 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